Seven-year old Michael was on a school trip to a Wildlife Centre in Central Scotland. It was near the end of the day and they were in the Gift Shop before boarding the bus for the journey home.
Poor Michael! He couldn't resist the array of lollipops and chocolate animals that beckoned to him. He chose one and was about to pay for it with his last few pennies.
His teacher, a kindly soul with not long before retirement, noticed him. "Have you bought something for your Mum yet, Michael?"
Michael lowered his head in shame! Gently, the teacher took the candy bar from him and replaced it on the shelf.
She walked to another display and selected a small figure made from cheap plastic. "Why not take this for her? You've got just enough money left."
Years have now passed.
Michael is all grown up and has left home, but the figurine still has pride of place in his mum's display cabinet.
Michael still recalls the day he learned an important lesson: "The figure was made of cheap plastic, but my Mum couldn't have treasured it more had it been made of silver, gold or even platinum."
Sometimes we as parents and adults lose our sense of perspective, don't we? What may seem trivial and unimportant to us, can mean so much to a child.
We can learn a useful parenting tip from Michael's mum. The gift had little or no monetary value, but was given - albeit with a gentle nudge from the teacher! - with generosity and a certain amount of personal sacrifice. And by displaying it for years, Michael's mum showed her appreciation of that.
This reminds me of a conference I once attended.
There was a blue rug on the floor and the participants were asked to gather round. It was an exercise in perception, we were told.
The speaker threw a small woollen ball onto the rug. It was exactly the same colour and was made from the same material - so it blended in and seemed to disappear.
'Now find it,' was the instruction. Everyone peered and peered without success, until someone - not me! - got down on his knees and looked from ground level.
Bingo! There was the profile of the ball, rising above the surface of the mat.
Call it 'thinking outside the box' or whatever - but very often problems can be solved by looking at them from another perspective or dimension.
When we learn to think like our children, when we 'get down to their level', when we master the art of getting inside their heads and seeing life from their point of view, the task of raising children becomes much easier - to say nothing of more enjoyable and fulfilling.
Happy parenting!
Why do some parents and children succeed, while others fail? Frank McGinty is an internationally published author and teacher. If you want to develop your parenting skills and encourage your kids to be all they can be, visit his web pages, http://www.frank-mcginty.com/peace-formula.html AND http://www.frank-mcginty.com/peace-formula.html
cleaning help near Mundelein ..Your child's teacher says that you need to find out... Read More
It's the third time this week that Sam has complained... Read More
Self-reliance and potential are two very important values that I'd... Read More
So your little Susie wants to join a competitive gymnastic... Read More
The time you will need to teach your children the... Read More
What are the easiest things citizens can do to prevent... Read More
Seven-year old Michael was on a school trip to a... Read More
(Excerpted from Jim Rohn's 2004 Weekend Leadership Event)You have to... Read More
Sara loves pampering. Haircuts, facials, manicures, and makeup bring smiles,... Read More
There are so many learning labels floating around these days... Read More
It's no surprise that the self-image and self-esteem of overweight... Read More
Learning responsibility is an ever widening and lifelong process.As thinking,... Read More
I WAS AMAZEDI could hardly believe what I was hearing.... Read More
Yesterday my husband Wade took the day off (that's one... Read More
How excited do kids get with the start of school... Read More
School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation... Read More
This time, I would like to talk about a subject... Read More
Not all parents subscribe to the notion of "tough love,"... Read More
NY -- Strange as it may sound, bordom promotes happier,... Read More
Family decision-making is an intriguing phenomenon. Many factors become part... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Just as every snowflake is unique, so is every child.... Read More
Search for Assurance: The Power of BelongingThe job hunt is... Read More
Our back-to-school buying habits do not help kids succeed in... Read More
For troubled teens who are struggling with drug abuse, depression... Read More
reliable maid service Wilmette ..Now I know that is not how the song goes,... Read More
The distressed adolescent often has feelings of abandonment, emotional detachment,... Read More
Have you ever had this struggle with your teens? Did... Read More
We are all so very happy to see that the... Read More
Most of us can agree that there is a lack... Read More
What parent hasn't gone into a son's or daughter's room... Read More
What is a parenting problem?Parenting is a tough job, we... Read More
Very often, new parents rely on a parenting tip or... Read More
What do you mean average? Not good? Just doing good... Read More
As a parent, you probably know that the birthday party... Read More
Each child carries a unique picture of the self, shaped... Read More
Researched through personal experience!Budget Your Money. Even if you are... Read More
In theory, working at home is an ideal situation. But... Read More
As thinking, acting human beings we have the ability to... Read More
When my daughter was born, I must admit there was... Read More
What's new and effective in the treatment of Attention problems?... Read More
Children bombard parents with many challenging behaviours. We are delighted... Read More
Minus all meningitis thoughts. The flu symptons were strong. Headache,... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
Few things are more completely enjoyable than becoming a grandparent.... Read More
Corolle Paul or Emma Drink-and-Wet SET potty dollsThis is the... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
Did you know that over 75% of teens aged 16-17... Read More
Life is funny.My twenty-year-old daughter, Melanie, has a her new... Read More
There is nothing quite like hiking with small children. The... Read More
Parenting |