There are times when my ideas of raising a child is different from the elderly and others. To begin with, my baby is not an easy one. Because we're all different and have contrasting ideas about raising their own children, we should expect contradiction...especially if we have to depend on others to help take care of our children while we're away at work.
Sometimes, others may refer to your child as a BAD BABY just because your child is not as 'well behaved' as others. But through the years of parenting, I have begun to question the following, who's a good baby and who's a bad one ? Is there ever a bad baby? Are babies capable of being bad? What is bad?
Being a work at home mother, I work during the when I have to. Even when I am physically at home, I still HAVE TO work and have self-imposed working hours. So, I still have to depend on inside and outside help to take care of my kids until I can be with them...which is often as soon as I can. But opinions are not necessarily the same when it comes to childcare.
Take it from me, just learn to relax a little bit more. When you're a first time parent, admit it, we're really keen on being a good parent. Anything can send us into unabashed hysteria! I know I was like that when I was first a mother. The second time round, I look back and sometimes laugh at myself.
Relax . Take a deep breath and count to ten. If you're not calm by then, take another deep breath and count to ten again. Still suffering from frayed nerves? Repeat procedure. The point is that, it's not too good to spoil the repoire you have with your baby's daytime caretaker, whether she is your relative, sister, mother, mother-in-law or a hired help. Besides, maybe bending a couple of rules here and there is not going to result in a totally lost and hopeless child.
Find other options . Look, discreetly, for other means of taking care of your son, some of which may be seeking outside help, alternating caretaking with mother and mother-in-law...etc. There are always other ways of finding a reasonably good caretaker for your baby. For me, I have resorted to hiring a live-in babysitter who takes care of my children when I am working.
Talk to other people about your problem . There will be other people who face the same problem you're facing. Sometimes, talking about it to another person will simply make it less significant and put things back into perspective. Especially when the someone is someone you trust completely. Just remember to keep an open mind...
Consult other family members . Other people may have a tip or two up their sleeves on how they survived the ordeal.
Swallow the pill . Take it from me, it is not worth it to argue with your baby's daycaregivers. Ultimately, the welfare of your baby is in their hands. You're on the losing end if you piss them off. It is simply not worth it. Noone and I mean, NOONE will be able to UNDERSTAND or deal with the problems FOR YOU. Pick your battles wisely, smile and bear with it. Sometimes, bearing with it, the other parties (like your day caregivers) may start to see something in you and things will starting becoming better. I mean, who knows?
Marsha Maung is a work at home graphic designer and writer. She lives with her husband, Peter and 2 boys, Joshua and Jared in Selangor, Malaysia. She is the author or "Raising Little Magicians" and more information can be found at http://www.marshamaung.com
whole house cleaning Highland Park ..Anorexia nervosa is a serious medical disorder that is statistically... Read More
Why do some children still do best after divorce and... Read More
What are the easiest things citizens can do to prevent... Read More
My daughters and I went to the beach several weeks... Read More
Teenagers are a work-in-progress, and parenting teenagers can be tricky... Read More
When a child wets the bed they worry. Children tend... Read More
Below is a copy of our eating program for Attention... Read More
The disquieting behavior of teenagers in the 21st century, is... Read More
Winnie the Pooh is the classic picture of Inattentive ADHD.... Read More
Loving your step-child can be both simple and hard. It... Read More
How should one look upon Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)... Read More
Q. When you consult with a family with teens, what... Read More
Summertime means insect bites and stings. Ouch! Take a leaf... Read More
As a parent, you probably know that the birthday party... Read More
Chaim Ginott was a schoolteacher whose ideas and observations helped... Read More
1. Boundaries are necessary for control and safety.All children need... Read More
It is human nature to feel competitive and envious toward... Read More
Meningitis is an inflammation of the membranes around the brain... Read More
Your child's first year of school should be a fun... Read More
As I sit here and reflect on the past two... Read More
Criticism is punitiveOur children judge themselves on the opinions we... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse... Read More
Does music need to be "dumbed-down" for kids? The answer... Read More
As mothers, we play so many different roles and most... Read More
pet-friendly home cleaners Glenview ..Ever feel like you're out of the loop when it... Read More
On one of her quarterly visits to see her grandson,... Read More
We all know that using cloth nappies is best for... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
The girl's jaw dropped in horror as the police officer... Read More
Remember when cash was a tangible commodity in all of... Read More
When I was pregnant, we knew that we had some... Read More
There's a new trend for party entertainment. It seems as... Read More
When we consider that the word allowance means, "allowing for,"... Read More
In a single dose of children's television, I was bombarded... Read More
Parents looking for a quick fix usually choose troubled teen... Read More
Our back-to-school buying habits do not help kids succeed in... Read More
Younger generations unfortunately will not understand how larger than life... Read More
Are you a parent concerned about passing values on to... Read More
Even if your teenagers do not use drugs, you still... Read More
When it comes to the treatment of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity... Read More
Is your babysitter watching the kids and your k9 family... Read More
You are in the final round of your favorite game... Read More
(Isaiah 11:6 KJV) The wolf also shall dwell with the... Read More
What do you mean average? Not good? Just doing good... Read More
All too often, children with learning disabilities are seen through... Read More
You know that children can get into trouble. The older... Read More
I recall somewhere in the recesses of my aging brain... Read More
Successful families don't just happen. They take time, talent and... Read More
Most people have more training before they receive their driver's... Read More
Parenting |