Seven-year old Michael was on a school trip to a Wildlife Centre in Central Scotland. It was near the end of the day and they were in the Gift Shop before boarding the bus for the journey home.
Poor Michael! He couldn't resist the array of lollipops and chocolate animals that beckoned to him. He chose one and was about to pay for it with his last few pennies.
His teacher, a kindly soul with not long before retirement, noticed him. "Have you bought something for your Mum yet, Michael?"
Michael lowered his head in shame! Gently, the teacher took the candy bar from him and replaced it on the shelf.
She walked to another display and selected a small figure made from cheap plastic. "Why not take this for her? You've got just enough money left."
Years have now passed.
Michael is all grown up and has left home, but the figurine still has pride of place in his mum's display cabinet.
Michael still recalls the day he learned an important lesson: "The figure was made of cheap plastic, but my Mum couldn't have treasured it more had it been made of silver, gold or even platinum."
Sometimes we as parents and adults lose our sense of perspective, don't we? What may seem trivial and unimportant to us, can mean so much to a child.
We can learn a useful parenting tip from Michael's mum. The gift had little or no monetary value, but was given - albeit with a gentle nudge from the teacher! - with generosity and a certain amount of personal sacrifice. And by displaying it for years, Michael's mum showed her appreciation of that.
This reminds me of a conference I once attended.
There was a blue rug on the floor and the participants were asked to gather round. It was an exercise in perception, we were told.
The speaker threw a small woollen ball onto the rug. It was exactly the same colour and was made from the same material - so it blended in and seemed to disappear.
'Now find it,' was the instruction. Everyone peered and peered without success, until someone - not me! - got down on his knees and looked from ground level.
Bingo! There was the profile of the ball, rising above the surface of the mat.
Call it 'thinking outside the box' or whatever - but very often problems can be solved by looking at them from another perspective or dimension.
When we learn to think like our children, when we 'get down to their level', when we master the art of getting inside their heads and seeing life from their point of view, the task of raising children becomes much easier - to say nothing of more enjoyable and fulfilling.
Happy parenting!
Why do some parents and children succeed, while others fail? Frank McGinty is an internationally published author and teacher. If you want to develop your parenting skills and encourage your kids to be all they can be, visit his web pages, http://www.frank-mcginty.com/peace-formula.html AND http://www.frank-mcginty.com/peace-formula.html
green cleaning service Park Ridge ..Q. What is the best way to teach safety awareness... Read More
WHEN AN INJURY HAPPENS AT CAMP, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
In the last 20 years we've all been introduced to... Read More
Here's a scene: A parent "might suddenly grab a happliy... Read More
What's hard for teenagersHaving people who don't understand you trying... Read More
When it's time to put your child into a daycare... Read More
My daughters and I went to the beach several weeks... Read More
Ah, potty training! Go to a local bookseller and you... Read More
All too often, children with learning disabilities are seen through... Read More
When you're a parent it's a difficult decision to know... Read More
Isn't it ironic that a country whose constitution allows for... Read More
"Good parents give their children Roots and Wings." --Jonas SalkThe... Read More
There's a new trend for party entertainment. It seems as... Read More
Are you being smart about water conservation? Do you consider... Read More
Even though the "Stop and Think" movement in ADHD treatment... Read More
'I felt great until I walked into the classroom -... Read More
You have two kids who are 14 months apart. How... Read More
When we talk about attention, we are talking about two... Read More
This is one of the most common questions asked of... Read More
Why do some children still do best after divorce and... Read More
What Children Look for in a Friend?Is this child fun... Read More
The debate in many towns continues throughout this country about... Read More
1. New Word of the DayIntroduce your preschooler to a... Read More
Home schooling benefits children. As a parent, I feel it... Read More
cleaning help near Bannockburn ..When it's time to put your child into a daycare... Read More
It was a day that I will forever be etched... Read More
Q. I need your help with a question about my... Read More
Most teens go into the work world ill-prepared to manage... Read More
You are in the final round of your favorite game... Read More
Every year over one million parents have to talk to... Read More
There are several treatment options available to help improve the... Read More
Imagine having no television for an entire season. Such was... Read More
One of my first memories of childhood is that of... Read More
If you are like most people today, you do not... Read More
What is a parenting problem?Parenting is a tough job, we... Read More
Plus size children and overweight children need patterns and clothing... Read More
If you visit search engines you can find several resources... Read More
If you spend any time in the parenting section of... Read More
According to the American Sleep Association 70% of all babies... Read More
Whether we realize it or not we teach our children... Read More
Potty training fears, often called toilet terrors, are common among... Read More
An apology is a sign of strength, not weakness. Sometimes... Read More
Strattera came out around January of 2003, and is becoming... Read More
Parents are losing their self-control to anger. A friend called... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Voices!So many voices crying out for adherence and so many... Read More
Sitting by her Pinocchio lamp, she smiled at me as... Read More
Q. We recently caught our son smoking pot, and we... Read More
I am in pain. I've been in pain all day.... Read More
Parenting |