Even if your teenagers do not use drugs, you still need to keep an eye on them. It is much better to realize that things could change, and anticipate that your teen COULD become a user. Essentially, it is not wise to make assumptions about topics such as drug use. Also, having been a high school teacher afforded me the opportunity to witness peer pressure, and how even good kids could be convinced to try drugs - just to fit in. It is important that you play a proactive role in ensuring that your teenagers and the rest of your family remains drug free.
About drug use
Initially, I learned that the signs of drug use included three basic symptoms:
What I later discovered was that not seeing these symptoms only provides a false sense of security regarding teenagers and potential drug use. The above behaviors apply more to signs of "drug addiction," as opposed to "experimental" drug use.
Teens who experiment with drugs don't start out addicted so logically, they do not show any symptoms. They generally look healthy and nothing seems to be wrong. In fact, teens can casually use drugs for over a year before their parents would even suspect any drug or alcohol use.
Many teenagers who decide to experiment with drugs start out casually, using them with friends and then progressing towards regular use. It is important that you look for clues pertaining to casual drug use so that if your teen is prone, you can proactively deal with it.
What you can do
You need to monitor your teen's behavior and watch for signs of drug use, without appearing to be spying. Your goal should be to prevent him or her from feeling free to experiment with drugs or alcohol. The best way to accomplish this is to keep abreast of your teen's activities and friends. You will be able to spot a problem early if you keep your eyes and ears open, and believe that YOUR teenager is capable of using drugs. Many parents get blind-sided by thinking that their teen would never try drugs. Only then will you be ready to intervene if the situation presents itself.
The following are ten ways to monitor your teenager's behavior and watch for signs of drug use, without appearing to be spying:
1. Hug your teen as soon as s/he arrives home. Check for odors of possible marijuana smoke or alcohol. Remember that cologne or chewing gum may be used to hide the odor.
2. Teenagers under the influence will usually go straight to their room when they arrive home. While making eye contact, hold a brief conversation. Check for bloodshot eyes, slurred speech and their sense of balance.
3. Keep the lights on and stay up until your teenager comes home.
4. Ask your teen for the time and watch the way s/he looks at his or her watch.
5. If your teenager unexpectedly wants to spend the night at a friend's house, and you have concerns, say no.
6. Maintain a flexible schedule. Be unpredictable so your teen cannot find it easy to plan around your activities.
7. Keep abreast of what your teen is really doing when away from home. Meet their friends and their parents and participate in mutual activities. This is a very effective form of networking.
8. Ask your neighbors to discretely keep an eye on any activities that may take place while you are not home.
9. Check to see how your teens are doing in school. Ask their teachers if there is any cause for concern or if your teen has been behaving differently.
10. After you meet your teenager's friends, always ask them to identify themselves when they call. Get to know them. Always encourage your teens to invite their friends over while you are home.
Remember, your goal should be to prevent your teenager from feeling free to experiment with drugs or alcohol. The best way to accomplish this is to keep abreast of their activities and friends using the above methods.
Lastly, but most important, talk to your teenager on a regular basis about the drug use she witnesses, and how she feels about it. Also, if she has been approached, have her describe how she handled the situation. Strive for honesty and ask how you can help her to remain drug free.
2004 by V. Michael Santoro and Jennifer S. Santoro, All Rights Reserved.
About The Author
V. Michael Santoro M. Ed. coauthored, "Realizing the Power of Love," How a father and teenage daughter became best friends...and how you can too, with his teenage daughter Jennifer S. Santoro. Visit their Web site at http://www.dads-daughters.com
monthly home cleaning Buffalo Grove ..In the news, we hear and see an increasing number... Read More
Incest is sexual activity, ranging from fondling to intercourse, between... Read More
1. Encourage your babysitter by keeping their favorite foods/snacks on... Read More
Are you looking for the Ultimate Airplane Themed Party Games... Read More
Perhaps I could make a lot of money by founding... Read More
WHEN AN INJURY HAPPENS AT CAMP, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED... Read More
So you're going to become a father. Now is not... Read More
Child Car Seat Safety:We know you love your children, but... Read More
Home-schooling removes children from public school. That alone makes home-schooling... Read More
What exactly makes safety glasses different from regular glasses? There... Read More
Creating and making special memories with your child is very... Read More
Most research into children's friendships shows that those children who... Read More
We all know that using cloth nappies is best for... Read More
An Awesome Dad in by no means perfect. But that... Read More
There are few thoughts as terrifying as the abduction of... Read More
You can learn a lot from children.The best part of... Read More
4 traps to avoidTrap 1 - Parents need to realize... Read More
It was no contest. Given a choice between a ball... Read More
Nurture and TeachThe single most important thing caregivers can do... Read More
All babies cry, but if yours cries a lot, isn't... Read More
Successful parents have learned to be both firm and kind... Read More
Although it might seem pretty corny to a lot of... Read More
I am crying tears of joy mixed with great sadness... Read More
To have reasonable expectations of our children is an important... Read More
Everyone in a private practice setting who works with children... Read More
scheduled maid service Mundelein ..Do you ever wonder what is behind the occasional nasty... Read More
On a bright Sunday morning, a couple of weeks ago,... Read More
When it's time to put your child into a daycare... Read More
Most of the ADHD kids that are seen in a... Read More
The biggest trick some child predators' are using these days... Read More
Mary, Mary, quite contrary, How does your garden grow? With... Read More
The No Child Left Behind Act of 2001 is making... Read More
Recently, our family had the opportunity to care for sisters'... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent more than the... Read More
Under the "No Child Left Behind Act," public schools whose... Read More
There is no doubt that the benefits of being a... Read More
In the wonderment of childhood, it is easier for a... Read More
When it comes to exams, or indeed any academic work,... Read More
The school holidays are a great time for the kids,... Read More
The advances in science over the past century have been... Read More
1. You reheated the same cup of coffee three times... Read More
Many companies advertise their products as being educational. How much... Read More
Until the moment I became a mother, I couldn't quite... Read More
So, the thing is? I am feeling a little guilty.I... Read More
Sitterphobe "I never have a second to myself," this mother... Read More
We want our children to do the right thing, especially... Read More
So your little Susie wants to join a competitive gymnastic... Read More
Age 1: Invite only family members and close friends only... Read More
Is your baby approaching his or her first birthday and... Read More
Every year over one million parents have to talk to... Read More
Parenting |