The teenage years are a crucial time in a child's life. They are not children anymore, but they are also not adults. During this time the choices they make may have an effect on them for the rest of their lives. It is the parents' responsibility to guide their teenagers in the right direction by helping them make responsible choices and building their character to the point that when their teenagers move out of the house they are on the road to being responsible adults and have the tools they need to succeed in life.
There are a number of ways that parents can help teenagers build their character. One way is through part-time employment. Having a job provides many learning opportunities for teens.
* It teaches them what it takes to make a living, and that it is hard work to earn money to pay bills.
* They have the opportunity to learn to manage their own money and make choices of how they will spend it.
* If parents gives their teens the responsibility of paying for some of their own bills (e.g., car insurance, gas, clothing, cell phone, lunches out, etc.), then teens will realize they will only be able to have these things if they pay for them and will have to decide if it is worth it to them or not. Their priorities suddenly change when it is their money they are spending. They don't necessarily have to pay all their own bills, giving them a couple of expenses to take care of will teach them to pay their own way and make responsible choices with their money.
* Working is one way for teens to learn to get along with and work along side other people, a very crucial step in character development. How many adults do you know that can't get along with other people! Teens learn that you won't always like everyone you work with, but that it doesn't matter. You still do your job and have a good attitude about it, treating others as you wish to be treated.
* The process of looking for a job requires teenagers to take a good look at themselves and their abilities, helping them to see what kind of people they want to be and what they ultimately want to do with their lives.
* Job experience is the first step to building a successful resume. Any jobs a teen has will look good on college applications and be a stepping stone to future employment.
Of course, all this sounds great but in reality can be difficult to put into practice. The first job our daughter had she got laid off from because she and her boss could not come to agreement on the hours she would work. After she started working there he changed the hours he said she could work and it conflicted with other activities she had. It was very hard for her to feel like she was "fired" from her first job. We had to talk through a lot of the feelings she had towards her boss and some of the experiences she had at that job. But because she chose to honor her boss by showing him respect when he didn't necessarily deserve it, he gave her an excellent reference for her next job.
A couple of months later she did find another job that was much better than the first one, and she had many great learning experiences of working with others and learning to serve others even when it was very hard work.
Parents can't just throw their teens out into the workplace and expect everything will go great. Issues will arise that need to be worked through with the parents' help, but this is where the learning occurs, and character development begins!
Rachel Paxton is a freelance writer and mom of four. For more inspirational articles and tips for everyday living, visit her web sites at http://www.creativehomemaking.com and http://www.creativehomemaking.com
home sanitizing services Bannockburn ...I know this Mom. She homeschools her 5 children, plus... Read More
It's no surprise that the self-image and self-esteem of overweight... Read More
Every parent wants their child to develop positive character traits.... Read More
One of my first memories of childhood is that of... Read More
Spare the rod, spoil the child!This philosophy's been around a... Read More
A fun way to build your child's imaginationWriting is still... Read More
On one of her quarterly visits to see her grandson,... Read More
"Now don't you go getting any ideas, Harold.""Don't you get... Read More
Although many parents become frustrated as they try to maintain... Read More
Working with adults (as well as children and teens) for... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
When my firstborn arrived into this serene and peaceful household,... Read More
Past experience with federal education programs predicts that the No... Read More
Under the "No Child Left Behind Act," public schools whose... Read More
Having been a parent educator and a PBS consultant for... Read More
Parents are always looking for ways to open up the... Read More
Many parents would like to homeschool their children but are... Read More
My wife and I have been working on a video... Read More
Dear friends here we will charge up our mind with... Read More
What Children Look for in a Friend?Is this child fun... Read More
Children do what feels good to them and follow their... Read More
Most of us really don't like it when someone is... Read More
Seven-year old Michael was on a school trip to a... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
Karen, a single never-married thirty-year old attorney has a four-year... Read More
tidy up service Des Plaines ...One reason public schools get away with educational failure, year... Read More
Assuming there are no serious motor problems present, what can... Read More
If you are currently homeschooling or considering homeschooling your child,... Read More
In stepfamilies, big holiday expectations can lead to big disappointment--and... Read More
As a step daughter and step grand daughter, I followed... Read More
Jason Roberts listened to his son's explanation of the missing... Read More
It's no surprise that the self-image and self-esteem of overweight... Read More
What Children Look for in a Friend?Is this child fun... Read More
Recently I took my two children to a popular new... Read More
At the ADHD Information Library we are big believers that... Read More
How often do you think of family life as an... Read More
A growing body of scientific evidence shows that the way... Read More
The small, lilac colored hexagonal box, with Winnie the Pooh... Read More
Research published by University of Rochester neuroscientists C. Shawn Green... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
Since so many would rather avoid the use of stimulant... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
What is a parenting problem?Parenting is a tough job, we... Read More
Most day cares are non-profit organizations that must operate within... Read More
I was changing Ford's diaper the other day when he... Read More
1. Encourage Questions.Don't answer every question, instead ask what do... Read More
Uh oh.Your kids arrive home with their school reports and... Read More
In "The Ring Bear," a picture book by Tigard resident... Read More
If your child is to derive the benefits of physical... Read More
We've got spirit, yes we do! We've got spirit how... Read More
Parenting |