Mommy (Daddy), Why do those people want to hurt everyone?
Last week, the world was shaken by another terrorist attack. Hot on the heels of the Live 8 benefits and in the middle of the G8 Summit, bombs exploded in London. Adults around the globe were glued to CNN and spent time discussing their feelings about the event around the water cooler at work, with their partners at home or in online discussion groups and e-mails. Collectively, we reached out and were comforted and reassured by the words of Prime Minister Tony Blair and other world leaders.
Many adults, however, do not realize how many kids are exposed to the same news. Older children may read the newspaper or watch the news on TV. Others may be exposed to "breaking news" during an interruption in their favorite cartoon t.v. program and still others can easily stumble across the information online via MSN, Yahoo, Google or any of the other online portals. While adults were declaring their solidarity in the War On Terror last week, many children's anxieties and fears were being overlooked.
In our efforts to protect our children and preserve the innocence of childhood as long as possible, we attempt to shield them from the atrocities that occur in today's turbulent times. When events such as the bombs in London, the events at the elementary school in Belsan, Russia in September, 2004 and the September 11th attacks on the World Trade Center occur, our natural instinct is to not discuss the events of the day with our children. Yet, as news of terrorist attacks or other tragedies surround them, your children may be feeling frightened, anxious, sad and confused.
As a parent, only you can decide what news is appropriate for your children but do not assume that your child does not have an awareness of the tragic events that have a global impact. It's important to talk to your children about the actions that shape our lives but the amount of information you share with your child differs across age groups and even from child to child.
The best way to make sure kids know they are safe, is to talk with them about what they see and hear and give them a chance to express their feelings.
Parents with children reacting to the news should:
? Know all the facts: Parents should help their children cope with the attacks first by finding out how much they know about what happened.
? Know yourself: Try to be aware of your own anxieties in order to know your child's.
? Know your child: Children may not have the verbal capacity to discuss their anxieties. Watch for new behavioral/physical manifestations of their fears. For example, your child may reveal his/her anxiety by not wanting to separate to go to school or camp.
? Reduce media exposure: It's important to filter the information that your child receives so that you can control the intensity of the reaction, instill in your child your sense of values and moral principles, and keep the lines of communication open and let them ask questions.
? Build a plan: Children, no matter their age, are primarily concerned with safety "Am I safe? Is my family safe?" To allay their fears, work with your child to create a safety plan.
Remember: World disasters are scary for adults and children alike. Always reach for more assistance when unsure of your next step.
Dr. Charles Sophy currently serves as Medical Director for the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS), which is responsible for the health, safety and welfare of nearly 40,000 foster children. He also has a private psychiatry practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Sophy has lectured extensively and is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California Los Angeles Neuro-Psychiatric Institute. His lectures and teachings are consistently ranked as among the best by those in attendance.
Dr. Charles Sophy, author of the "Keep 'Em Off My Couch" blog, provides real simple answers for solving life's biggest problems. He specializes in improving the mental health of children. To contact Dr. Sophy, visit his blog at http://drsophy.com
licensed cleaning services Park Ridge ..Detox To Conceive.. If you're having trouble conceiving... Read More
The citizens of the early Roman Republic enjoyed an education... Read More
We know that you want your little guy or gal... Read More
Q. We just got our daughter's progress report, and it... Read More
Looking for an unusual and memorable gift? Why not preserve... Read More
Did you know that over 75% of teens aged 16-17... Read More
What parents of a teen haven't wondered where their sweet... Read More
Although many parents become frustrated as they try to maintain... Read More
What's hard for teenagersHaving people who don't understand you trying... Read More
Start some gardening traditions with your kids. Give them their... Read More
In dealing with children with autism spectrum disorders, its all... Read More
Children think money grows on trees. Maybe not literally, but... Read More
The subject of competition is one that provokes some pretty... Read More
Prioritize. Learn to say No. Steal some time for yourself.Don't... Read More
Vouchers, which give tax money to parents to pay for... Read More
Are men to blame for the divorce problem in this... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
Recently, a much-anticipated game of mini-golf with my children soon... Read More
At the ADHD Information Library we are big believers that... Read More
Very often, new parents rely on a parenting tip or... Read More
Is there a difference between lazy and unmotivated? Why do... Read More
I recall somewhere in the recesses of my aging brain... Read More
Even as a busy parent, I'm sure you've seen a... Read More
If you visit search engines you can find several resources... Read More
Our children are our most important legacy to the world.... Read More
on demand house cleaning Arlington Heights ..Frankly, as a single parent of young children, I struggled.... Read More
Do you remember how you first learned the alphabet? I... Read More
With the beginning of the new school year coming VERY... Read More
The wonderful adaptability of children in dealing with the challenges... Read More
Some people can concentrate on an assignment, to the exclusion... Read More
Anorexia nervosa is a serious medical disorder that is statistically... Read More
Imagine you were the principal of the school that your... Read More
Often I have heard that leaders are born, not made.... Read More
In the last 20 years we've all been introduced to... Read More
Is it possible to be using our children addictively?Anything that... Read More
She slipped her small, soft eight-year-old hand into mine. Her... Read More
Every children in the world whishes to have toys and... Read More
There isn't a school day that goes by that I... Read More
It is so important to create an environment that promotes... Read More
The question I have for you drives right to the... Read More
Becoming a stepmother can undoubtedly be one of the most... Read More
Do you know what these famous people have in common?Alexander... Read More
How well do you really know your child?There is so... Read More
If you are like most people today, you do not... Read More
Nanny 911 Interview with Montel WilliamsI saw an interview with... Read More
Impulsivity is one of the hallmarks of people with Attention... Read More
One reason public schools get away with educational failure, year... Read More
My son is 6 yrs old. He came home the... Read More
Do you have a young child whose weight or eating... Read More
I don't know how people raise daughters because I have... Read More
Parenting |