It's funny how people seem to think that they have spent quality time with their kids after work by bringing them out to the mall for a lifeless and meaningless stroll only to come home with nothing more than a whole bunch of stuff that they (or the kids) don't need. In fact, time has been wasted because kids don't NEED you to bring them out to the shopping mall to waste time. They want and NEED to be with you.
It's really funny because I used to think taking my kids out for a very casual window-shopping trip was meaningful too until someone pointed out to me that my kids were STILL closer to someone else (their daycaregiver) when compared to me. I mean, what is it with kids, anyway? I take them out, don't I? I try my best to give them whatever they want. I buy them presents, don't I? They have more clothes than me, don't they?
But here's the sad part?.that's not quality time.
Quality time with your kids is just staying home with absolutely nothing to do, just lolling around on the carpet watching 'Blue's Clues' or 'Sesame Street' together giving each other nonchalant kisses and exchanging hugs (and repeated reviews about the show). Spending quality time with the kids involve nothing more than just CONNECTING with the kids, not spending detached moments of dis-connectivity loitering through unfamiliar places. It's about spending time connecting with the kids when you KNOW you've GOT SOMETHING ELSE BETTER TO DO.
I spent one whole Friday thinking about what to do with the kids on Saturday and Sunday and end up with nothing. So, on the weekends, we spent hours in front of the TV coloring bananas, gorillas, and calculator on pieces of paper. We, then, took the bicycle to the park and cycled around. Joshua got scrapes on his knees and Jared was more than unhappy with the fact that his big brother made more 'sand castles' in the park than he did ? but we all came home knowing that we knew each other better.
You see, spending quality time with the kids is all about getting to know your kids. Making an effort to be there for them when you know you CAN be doing something else with your life. We know we can use that time to actually finish off the report or call that important client up ? but the most important thing with quality time with kids is that we DON'T.
? Marsha Maung 2005
Please feel free to reprint this article anywhere in your website, magazine, ezine, or other types of publications for free. Please note that you should keep the byline in tact and please provide links back to the web addresses provided in the byline. Thanks.
Marsha Maung is a freelance graphic designer and copy writer who works from home. She designs apparel and premium items at http://www.creativejooz.com and http://www.creativejooz.com and is the author of "Raising little magicians", and the popular "The Lance in freelancing". More information can be found at http://www.creativejooz.com
home cleaning services Deerfield ..School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation... Read More
Thank you to all of our professional educators who dedicate... Read More
Are you worried about your child's reading habits? Perhaps you... Read More
There is little doubt that reading, 'riting and 'rithmetic are... Read More
Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character... Read More
We all know that using cloth nappies is best for... Read More
Ever blown your top to your children, only to regret... Read More
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Results of the Spanking Poll on Rexanne.com: Voters - 233Percentage... Read More
You no longer have to use Ritalin or other stimulants... Read More
I am a single mother of a 17 year old... Read More
Until the moment I became a mother, I couldn't quite... Read More
Q. My daughter has gotten very good at manipulating us,... Read More
Reading is the most important skill that a child must... Read More
Parents of hyperactive children know the "Would you please just... Read More
An address given by Rev. David B. Smith... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent more than the... Read More
We all want to comfort our children after they suffer... Read More
It's that time again! Parent-teacher conferences are coming. Are you... Read More
Choosing a baby name is an important job, so make... Read More
When I was pregnant, we knew that we had some... Read More
Parents, do you have children who do poorly in school,... Read More
When David was nine and Laura was twelve, the battles... Read More
Ever feel like you're out of the loop when it... Read More
1. The Law of the BeastAs parents we need to... Read More
In an actual war, to be attacked means to have... Read More
recurring housekeeping Highland Park .."Money is tight, and my husband's obsessed with doing everything... Read More
The wonderful adaptability of children in dealing with the challenges... Read More
We've got spirit, yes we do! We've got spirit how... Read More
Many parents seem to be more than a little confused... Read More
Everyone in a private practice setting who works with children... Read More
Q. My teenage son is turning 16 early next year... Read More
No matter what you say or do, your kids will... Read More
Reading to your child at a young age is one... Read More
Home-schooling provides children with a superior education. Parents can quickly... Read More
Teaching kids to deal with conflict effectively and peacefully is... Read More
Home schooling. What is it? What does it mean to... Read More
Every school year parents and students dutifully trudge through the... Read More
Here's a scene: A parent "might suddenly grab a happliy... Read More
Imagine having no television for an entire season. Such was... Read More
I am a single mother of a 17 year old... Read More
Prioritize. Learn to say No. Steal some time for yourself.Don't... Read More
To have reasonable expectations of our children is an important... Read More
Q. We just got our daughter's progress report, and it... Read More
Dexedrine is not prescribed very often for the treatment of... Read More
When it comes to the treatment of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity... Read More
Baby names are as diverse as the people to whom... Read More
Q. How do we decide what our teens should be... Read More
Encouragement comes when you focus on your child's assets and... Read More
We all want to comfort our children after they suffer... Read More
If there are any parents reading this who are thinking... Read More
Parenting |