We all know them. We all have somebody like them at our workplace. Some of us have them as our neighbor. Some are related to them. Gosh - some poor souls even live with them. So who are these people I speak of?
What I am talking about are the Hannibal Lecters of society. Toxic people.
Toxic people enjoy telling you every reason why you can't or shouldn't do something. Tell them an idea and they will tell you it's no good. They hope that you won't achieve more than they can and really don't want you to succeed. They whine, they complain, they spread rumors, they are prone to ugly moods - a thundercloud follows their every move. They are the doomsayers. I'll bet you already have someone like this in mind as you read these very words.
Unlike the Hannibal Lecter of "Silence of the Lambs" fame, toxic people are not trying to eat your flesh. No. Toxic people want to consume other things - your confidence, your self-esteem, your dreams, your ambitions, your goals, your desires. I think you get the picture.
The best thing you can do if you find yourself in the presence of one of these people is to run, hide, make other plans. Just get away from them as fast as you can. The least amount of time you spend with them the better.
Toxic people will attempt to indoctrinate you with huge amounts of negative input in a very short space of time, so it is imperative that you limit your time with them. They are easy to recognize. Their language gives them away. Every time they open their mouth out comes a litany of everything that is wrong with them, you, the world and other people.
Recognizing positive and negative personality traits is one of the skills of personal development. Many excellent books exist on this subject but there are none better than "Personality Plus" written by Florence Littauer.
In her book, Florence Littauer defines personality traits. In it you will learn how to get along with the four main personality types, and the multiple combinations of them. I have had the privilege of hearing Florence speak and she is a truly gifted author and presenter.
By understanding your own personality traits and those of other people you will enhance your ability to get along with those who are important to you. If you are a Human Resource Officer, a General Manager, a salesperson, or just somebody who likes to get along with other people, what would this skill be worth to you?
Guard yourself against the Hannibal Lecter's of this world. Your life will be so much more fulfilling without their destructive influence.
[If you like this article and would like to use it on your own website or ezine you may do so ONLY if the article is not changed in any way and the final paragraph: "About the author", with all links intact, is included.]
About the author: Gary Simpson is the author of eight books covering a diverse range of subjects such as self esteem, affirmations, self defense, finance and much more. His articles appear all over the web. Gary's email address is budo@iinet.net.au. Click here to go to his budo@iinet.net.au website where you can receive his "Zenspirational Thoughts" plus an immediate FREE copy of his highly acclaimed, life-changing e-book "The Power of Choice."
house refresh service Arlington Heights ..For most of us our lives are a problem which... Read More
Everyone of us has the potential to successfully more through... Read More
Do you ever feel sorry for yourself? Do you ever... Read More
Many times when an angry or rageful man comes into... Read More
Some people are full of confidence and able to meet... Read More
The easiest, most exciting adventure in consciousness follows the lamplit... Read More
Fear is a double-edged sword. It can hold you back... Read More
Many people who suffer from low self-esteem would give anything... Read More
There are countless books that describe success principles. Here are... Read More
Know thyself.These words were inscribed in the vestibule of the... Read More
"Spiritual Intelligence" (SI) is the ability of a person to... Read More
In the international bestseller, Blink, Malcolm Gladwell explains how researchers... Read More
Facing a change and want to make it work for... Read More
You've heard the buzzwords: Attitude is everything! Change your perspective!... Read More
Hospital patient undergoing surgery recounts how Hero Soul provided strength,... Read More
No one likes rejection. And yet it happens. Here's how... Read More
A balanced life not only leaves you feeling more fulfilled;... Read More
Few people are aware of the thoughts that pass through... Read More
I Hear Voices?This is not a statement of paranormal; it... Read More
Many centuries ago there was a Greek philosopher who lived... Read More
So, is this really where you thought you'd be? You're... Read More
I loved Norman Vincent Peale's, Power of Positive Thinking as... Read More
I believe that one of the best ways to stay... Read More
The others in the raft didn't seem to share Eddie's... Read More
Millions struggle through life barely earning enough to survive. Many... Read More
scheduled maid service Glencoe ..Getting motivated is sometimes easy enough to do, at least... Read More
No one becomes successful by accident. Motivational speaker Les Brown... Read More
Looking for a bit more mindfulness in your daily life?... Read More
What I mean of course is, to appreciate life through... Read More
The way to define your personality is to refine your... Read More
Peak Performance. It means being at the top of your... Read More
Would you like to be confident in the things you... Read More
From experience, one of the biggest stumbling blocks for people... Read More
That strange, gut-wrenching feeling you have is not the sushi... Read More
Yuk!One thing, I really have a problem with is criticism.... Read More
"In life, if you give yourself a concession, you'd take... Read More
Many people would say that it is absolute madness to... Read More
In my years as a psychologist, I have come to... Read More
Gail's StoryGail is a friend of mine and she was... Read More
"Every prayer - every thought, every statement, every feeling -is... Read More
So, is this really where you thought you'd be? You're... Read More
Striving to improve our self esteem is on everybody's mind.... Read More
"It really works!" "Well, I'll be?!"BJ like so many others... Read More
Are you the kind of person who dwells on your... Read More
People with negative attitudes may wonder why they never achieve... Read More
Every emotion, wether we classify it as good or bad,... Read More
What's wrong with me? When I'm sick I get grumpy... Read More
It really doesn't matter what your objectives are in this... Read More
So what is a limiting belief?Don't you love the current... Read More
1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design.... Read More
Positive Attitude Tips |