Identity and Your Fraternal Twin
For the most part, throughout this article I refer to a fraternal twin in the singular rather than the plural "twins." This is to emphasize the individuality of each twin. Too often twins are defined only by their being a part of a whole, rather than by their own individual identity. This can be very damaging emotionally, especially during the time children are struggling to establish their own self worth and place in the world.
Treat your fraternal twin as the autonomous, unique child they are. Genetically, fraternal twins are no more similar than their siblings who were born one at a time, and they certainly have personalities all their own. DNA tests can be performed to determine which type of twins your children are - fraternal, identical, etc. Far too often people look too hard for similarities between fraternal twins that simply aren't there - and in the meanwhile, they miss the opportunity to get to know each twin individually.
As a parent, do everything in your power to encourage each twin as they develop their own identities. If one wants to play soccer and the other has a passion for bagpipes, encourage each of them to work hard and excel at what they want to do. You will be doing the twins and the world a gross disservice by pigeon-holing both children into the same activity just because they happened to be born at the same time.
At the same time you are encouraging and accepting the difference between your fraternal twin and her brother, accentuate the similarities. There is no doubt your twins will share a special bond, if for no other reason than that they are growing up with a sibling their same age. The bond that fraternal twins share can be the source of love and support throughout their lives, and you would hate to destroy that by being overeager to make them lead different lives.Dressing Your Twins Alike
When they are little, it probably matters very little what you dress your twins in. But when your fraternal twin starts to become conscious of the fact that she is different than most people, you will need to be especially sensitive to her needs with regards to establishing her individual identity. Simply put, if your children like being dressed the same, do it; if they don't, do them and yourself the favor of letting them wear different clothes.
In the end, as is the case with all children, there is no clear cut answer when it comes to the best way to raise your twins. Learn everything you can from those who have been there and done that, but trust your parental intuition and do what's best for your kids. Finally, remember that "the most important work you will ever do will be within the walls of your own home."
Nick Smith is an internet marketing specialist with an advertising idea for you. For more information about DNA testing for your advertising idea, visit advertising idea.
green cleaning service Park Ridge ..Joey steps away from his time out chair "I won't... Read More
Not all parents subscribe to the notion of "tough love,"... Read More
"All that I am or ever hope to be, I... Read More
As the new school year begins, parents play a pivotal... Read More
Do your children have a McChildhood? Do they experience the... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Some years ago when touring the Scottish Highlands, a man... Read More
My neighbours' kid impressed me the other day.I was busy... Read More
It happens every year. Just when you are settled in... Read More
By the time your children reach their teens, there is... Read More
In today's fast-paced society, many families depend on some form... Read More
Assuming there are no serious motor problems present, what can... Read More
It's hard to explain to the uninitiated the changes that... Read More
Teachers know that children thrive in an environment with routines,... Read More
All responsible parents would want to support their children, find... Read More
If your child is to derive the benefits of physical... Read More
Maintain CommunicationEven though teens need to separate from their parents... Read More
We begin forming healthy habits at a young age. With... Read More
Parents want their children to succeed in school. However, sometimes... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
I've often thought that in 6 million years, archaeologists will... Read More
The hot new reality TV show "Nanny 911" has been... Read More
Home-schooling removes children from public school. That alone makes home-schooling... Read More
Q: A parent writes in to ask, "You write a... Read More
Dan Rather made a significant and tactical error and got... Read More
cleaning help near Bannockburn ..If you had to spend 4 or 5 hours in... Read More
Dear friends here we will charge up our mind with... Read More
Ask parents what their biggest school year challenge is, and... Read More
We all scream for ice cream. Or, we don't, at... Read More
Would you hand a child calculus problems once she was... Read More
There are two methods for teaching children to read; whole... Read More
One of the basic issues we need to understand is... Read More
A certain educator was once asked at what point should... Read More
Most parents can hardly wait for their baby to say... Read More
In today's mental health system there is a pattern of... Read More
Are you a parent concerned about passing values on to... Read More
The last decade has seen heightened interest in and awareness... Read More
What is Happening in the brain of children, teens, and... Read More
Are your children truthful, kind, and helpful? If so, read... Read More
Checking accounts are an absolute necessity these days. You can... Read More
Research published by University of Rochester neuroscientists C. Shawn Green... Read More
What's new and effective in the treatment of Attention problems?... Read More
If your parenting methods include abuse of any kind; physical,... Read More
My name is Duncan and I'm 2 years old. I... Read More
"I could have helped you if I would have known,... Read More
Very often, new parents rely on a parenting tip or... Read More
Parents want their children to succeed in school. However, sometimes... Read More
"My son won't go to bed at night without a... Read More
Anorexia nervosa is a serious medical disorder that is statistically... Read More
I've often thought that in 6 million years, archaeologists will... Read More
Parenting |