Advocate: you've probably heard the term before. But what does it mean to you?
Advocating happens when you speak on behalf of someone else. You say for them what they can't say for themselves.
When you have a child who has been diagnosed with a learning disability, this is exactly what you must do for them. You must speak on their behalf. You know your child the best of anybody, and you are the best person to speak for them.
It sounds like a tall order, and it is. It is not always an easy thing to do. I know. I've been there. Even with a college degree and a special education classroom of my own, I often felt "less than" the other members of the PET (Pupil Evaluation Team), the group of teachers and administrators that we met with to determine Michele's program. Sometimes, I felt as if I was being punished for not doing enough for my daughter, since she didn't learn the same way as the other children. Granted, it wasn't the professionals who made me feel that way, it was my own perspective. But, right or wrong, that's the way I felt.
As a teacher of students with LD, I sat through many PET meetings in which parents sat quietly looking down at their hands, feeling painfully inadequate. They didn't feel qualified enough to realize they had anything to add to the proceedings. After all, they were sitting with people who had college degrees and years of experience and training in teaching. Many felt that, for some reason, they were to blame because their child had a learning disability. Others felt that because they had little or no college education, they weren't as smart as the teachers.
That's not true. Parents can add more to the PET meeting than anyone else.
You know your child better than anyone else. You know what works best with them. You are their parent and you know how they think. Those things qualify you to be able to speak on equal footing with anyone else in the PET. If the PET recommends that your child begin his homework right when he gets home from school, but you know that he needs a break to relax, then speak up. If he is really tired by the end of the school day, then the teachers need to know that. If they recommend that your child do homework in total silence, but you know that listening to music helps your child to shut out the rest of the world so they can concentrate better, then tell the team. All of that information helps them to work with your child in school as well. Don't be shy about letting them know what works.
Don't be afraid to stand up for your child. Sometimes, because the child's progress needs to be discussed at the PET, things can sound somewhat negative. It's vital to ask for the good things that are going on with the child as well, and when you disagree with something a PET member says, express your feelings. Your child can't do that for himself - he needs you for you to do that for him.
Your child may not be able to tell others what they need. They may not know, themselves. Or they may not have the language to express their needs. Or, they may feel intimidated to tell adults what is going on with them even if they do know how to express themselves. It is up to you to help the PET understand the needs of your child and to speak up for him or her.
Remember, your child's education affects the rest of his life, and it's in your hands. It is a great responsibility, there's no doubt about it. But you know your child better than anyone else. You are your child's best advocate. You can do it!
For more up-to-date plain talk about learning disabilities, please visit us at www.ldperspectives.com.
About the Author
Sandy Gauvin is a retired educator who has seen learning disabilities from many perspectives - as the parent of a daughter with learning disabilities, as the teacher of children with learning disabilities, and as an advocate for others who have diagnosed and unrecognized learning disabilities. Sandy shares her wisdom and her resources at www.ldperspectives.com
"Setting the alarm on Sunday mornings is inhuman?..God should know... Read More
How bad is the illegal drug problem here in the... Read More
As a parent there are lots of things that you... Read More
Depending on where you live school will be starting this... Read More
There's a new trend for party entertainment. It seems as... Read More
The girl's jaw dropped in horror as the police officer... Read More
Creating and making special memories with your child is very... Read More
Most people have more training before they receive their driver's... Read More
I have always found the notion of toilet training a... Read More
What are we teaching our children about money? Hopefully something!I... Read More
Even though the "Stop and Think" movement in ADHD treatment... Read More
School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation... Read More
In stepfamilies, big holiday expectations can lead to big disappointment--and... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
Let's be honest! When it comes to parenting, men expect... Read More
Being a single mother is no easy task. I know.... Read More
Having a babysitter take care of your kids is sometimes... Read More
As part of the whole-language (or "balanced") reading-instruction philosophy, many... Read More
College is one of the largest expenses through the course... Read More
Most of our Founding Fathers, including Ben Franklin, Sam Adams,... Read More
Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More
Under the "No Child Left Behind Act," public schools whose... Read More
Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse... Read More
It's been raining for a week and the kids and... Read More
The key to a successful car wash fundraiser event is... Read More
tidy up service Morton Grove ...There are moments in a parent's or grandparent's life, when... Read More
Recently, a much-anticipated game of mini-golf with my children soon... Read More
Maintain CommunicationEven though teens need to separate from their parents... Read More
Teri was 5. As younger siblings do, she looked up... Read More
Detox To Conceive.. If you're having trouble conceiving... Read More
Dear Camille,As I thumb through the photographs that I carry... Read More
"There is nothing new under the sun," states Ecclesiastes 1:9.... Read More
What exactly makes safety glasses different from regular glasses? There... Read More
In speaking with parents a comment I frequently hear is... Read More
The word no is probably the most overused word in... Read More
"Not another meeting!"That tends to be the reaction from many... Read More
You have two kids who are 14 months apart. How... Read More
It was no contest. Given a choice between a ball... Read More
You have a chore to do around the house, and... Read More
Part of the responsibility of being a father is to... Read More
Criticism is punitiveOur children judge themselves on the opinions we... Read More
Love, love, love. It makes the world go round. It... Read More
Jason Roberts listened to his son's explanation of the missing... Read More
Lets face it becoming a mum is a bit of... Read More
Congratulations on your new baby! You have just brought your... Read More
"To educate a person in mind and not in morals... Read More
Are you a parent concerned about passing values on to... Read More
So you have just returned home from your third meeting... Read More
No matter how old your children are, you have an... Read More
Anorexia nervosa is a serious medical disorder that is statistically... Read More
Parenting |