How well do you really know your child?
There is so much information at our fingertips to learn more about a child's personality, 'behaviorisms' and intelligence. Of course, we want to be the best parent we can, and so we read all the information. And some of it is great! Take the four different temperaments . . . I can see my child in one, but then I turn the page and I see him in another temperament ? it all depends on the day or even the time of day!
I used to spend a lot of time looking at ways to give labels to my children. I thought that if I could just find the word that would sum them up, parenting would become so much easier. When child number three came along, I just didn't have the time to be searching for someone else's opinion about the type of child he was. I don't want any label other than his name used on him. This kind of parental confidence can be hard to find. We seem to be knocked off balance every time we read a newspaper ? you know, another piece of research, another thing we are doing wrong. But you are the one to understand and know your child the best. And this knowledge will teach you how to interact and support your own, individual child.
Seven Ways to Know Your Child Better
1. Observe your child: That's right. Just back off and actually watch them. Watch them at play, at work and while they are reading.
2. Allow your child to discovery their tendencies: Does your child, given the opportunity, rush to the Lego box, or maybe to the pile of books or to the art supplies. Find out what your child chooses to do ? it is probably this that they are good at!
3. Take lots of photographs: In this age of digital photography, it doesn't matter how many photographs we take, because we needn't print or keep them all. Photographs provide an excellent memory of what your child does ? and you will probably notice things you hadn't before.
4. Let your child dictate stories to you: Many children enjoy the art of storytelling, but find actual handwriting tiresome. Take this strain away from them by being their secretary. You'll be surprised at how your child's brain works when they create their stories.
5. Create a journal: Now, this doesn't need to be a work of art! Have a blank scrapbook and write in it, get them to draw pictures, glue in certificates and photographs.
6. Trust your instincts: Teachers may give you a wider understanding of your child ? take it on board ? but remember that your instincts are probably right.
7. Talk often with your child: Make sure you let your child lead a conversation with you every day. If you are the one that holds all the information and knowledge in your house, your child will be less likely to share with you. Let them joke, let them explore their emotions and let them just babble away.
Marilynn McLachlan, Author REAL parenting in the REAL world Author of "The New Parent Code: 12 Vital Clues for Achieving Modern Family Sanity", Penguin Books, 2005.
Visit http://www.marilynnmclachlan.com to sign up for her free fortnightly e-zine.
tidy up service Glenview ..Your Virgo Baby..August 23 - September 22Virgo children are honest... Read More
1. Make stronger connections among individuals and, therefore, creates a... Read More
When planning a child birthday party, just a little bit... Read More
Mother's Day is important for children.This Mother's Day take note... Read More
Parents are losing their self-control to anger. A friend called... Read More
Your daughter tells you that Uncle Charley has touched her... Read More
I thought I was the only one in the world... Read More
I remember watching my 18-month-old son eat a big frosted... Read More
Dear Vijay,I worry about not being a good parent. My... Read More
Those of you that have children know what an excursion... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
1. Tell me something you like about yourself? Help your... Read More
If your child is to derive the benefits of physical... Read More
Identity and Your Fraternal TwinFor the most part, throughout this... Read More
Are you worried about your child's reading habits? Perhaps you... Read More
1. The Law of the BeastAs parents we need to... Read More
Parental example, whether for good or for bad, is undoubtedly... Read More
One of the most difficult parts of being a father... Read More
Reading to your child at a young age is one... Read More
The older my daughter gets the more it's sinking in... Read More
You may think once your child has gone off to... Read More
It happens every year. Just when you are settled in... Read More
As Mother's Day approaches I would like to give a... Read More
An Awesome Dad in by no means perfect. But that... Read More
A study done by the Thomas B. Fordham Institute found... Read More
maid service near Winnetka ..The ADD child exhibits a series of behaviors that are... Read More
Diagnosing children and teens with ADHD can be a challenge.... Read More
Jason Meridith's two-year old son whines when he wants more... Read More
Once the newness has worn off a little, you will... Read More
"Where did he come up with that?" Kids often amaze... Read More
Young people generally want to fit in to their various... Read More
You know that children can get into trouble. The older... Read More
My thirteen-year-old daughter recently called me up to say she... Read More
Do any other reality TV junkies remember a show on... Read More
Winnie the Pooh is the classic picture of Inattentive ADHD.... Read More
Reading to your child at a young age is one... Read More
Q. My daughter has gotten very good at manipulating us,... Read More
The purpose of this article is to address some of... Read More
"Walk through any toy store and you will see walls... Read More
Libraries offer more than books. They are places of learning... Read More
Do you live with an ADD / ADHD child? If... Read More
One of the most difficult parts of being a father... Read More
Prioritize. Learn to say No. Steal some time for yourself.Don't... Read More
You are in the final round of your favorite game... Read More
Some people can concentrate on an assignment, to the exclusion... Read More
WHEN AN INJURY HAPPENS AT CAMP, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED... Read More
There's a new kind of fun and calm out there... Read More
Q. What is the best way to teach safety awareness... Read More
"No thank you. Don't bother to send me the report... Read More
Puberty can be a difficult time for children. Not quite... Read More
Parenting |