Learning responsibility is an ever widening and lifelong process.
As thinking, acting human beings we have the ability to choose our response to events, people and circumstances. We do not become responsible when we mature; we mature when we become responsible.
Psychologists teach that the only reasons people are ever motivated or moved to action is to gain a reward or avoid a penalty. As you teach this principal to the children in your charge be sure to explain what they will gain or lose by the choices they make.
ME: I am in charge of those things that directly affect me as a person.
Examples are:
Grooming, nutrition, exercise, education, choosing friends, a mate or a career. My choices might irritate or disappoint others but the consequences will ultimately hurt only me.
YOU: My actions in this circle affect those I love and care about. I want you to like and approve of me, so I am motivated to do what will please you. I have a responsibility to those who work or live with me to do the things I say I will, accept blame when I am wrong, make restitution, be co-operative, care for my possessions and safeguard other people's resources. Consequences have a ripple effect on those around me and will affect my daily life.
US: The community within 10 miles of wherever I am standing determines us. Some people and organizations I know, some I don't know yet, but they are a part of my extended neighborhood. This is the place to practice random acts of kindness, courtesy and service. We are each the representative of the groups we belong to; family, teenagers, school, soccer team etc. The whole may be judged and influenced by our individual actions and role model. The reward may come later in life in the form of recommendations, job offers, networking and a stronger more vibrant community.
The Universe: I have a responsibility to the universal family of humankind to make the world a better place. I need to be a part of the solution of preserving the earth, eliminating bigotry, giving service, and treating others, as I would like to be treated. The Universe may never give me a tangible reward, but I will gain an inner reward of doing right and making good choices for the higher good of all. I recognize that I have a responsibility to not only have positive actions, but thoughts, words and intentions towards others and to act with dignity, respect and love. As parents and leaders we need to give children the opportunity to be responsible as early as possible. Teach the concept of a pause button in order to stop, think and choose before acting. Whenever they are allowed to have a voice and a choice, they will grow up knowing that they have the power to guide the outcome of their life and contribute to the well being of the group.
This handout? 2003 has been prepared by Judy H. Wright, Missoula, MT parent educator and author. You may have permission to make copies for other parents and teachers but the entire article, including the signature line, must be included. A complete list of parenting books, aids, workshops and a FREE ezine is available at www.artichokepress.com. To contact us, please write judywright@artichokepress.com or call 406-549-9813.
cleaning service near Bannockburn ..This article on parenting is by a practicing relationship counsellor/therapist,... Read More
Do you remember how you first learned the alphabet? I... Read More
It's funny how people seem to think that they have... Read More
Before going further into choosing computers for children, I believe... Read More
A certain educator was once asked at what point should... Read More
Here are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you... Read More
Most parents can hardly wait for their baby to say... Read More
Get into their world. The world that teens are growing... Read More
A sure way to double the joys of parenthood is... Read More
How bad is the illegal drug problem here in the... Read More
At first I thought of titling this article "The Lazy... Read More
For several years now, I've told the following story as... Read More
Many young people don't know how to study efficiently and... Read More
Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse... Read More
Plus size children and overweight children need patterns and clothing... Read More
If your child is to derive the benefits of physical... Read More
Are you feeling overwhelmed being a parent? Do you want... Read More
We begin forming healthy habits at a young age. With... Read More
Most of us when asked what we want our children... Read More
There are two methods for teaching children to read; whole... Read More
Here are ten simple pleasures you can enjoy with your... Read More
Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More
As Mother's Day approaches I would like to give a... Read More
The debate in many towns continues throughout this country about... Read More
Just the other day, I was talking to some other... Read More
pet-friendly home cleaners Mundelein ..Few things are more completely enjoyable than becoming a grandparent.... Read More
Most of the ADHD kids that are seen in a... Read More
So your little Susie wants to join a competitive gymnastic... Read More
In our last article about the neurology of ADHD we... Read More
Do you have a high maintenance child?"Thank goodness my second... Read More
Bath time can be fun or it can be a... Read More
Working with adults (as well as children and teens) for... Read More
Looking back through my files I've come across several great... Read More
There has been much attention in the media of late... Read More
Because most teens have not had the experience of getting... Read More
The learning and development of Australian kids is under threat... Read More
Here we will come to know who are the most... Read More
While on a recent trip to the grocery store, I... Read More
In memory of 14 year old Matthew Smith; 11 year... Read More
Home-schooling removes children from public school. That alone makes home-schooling... Read More
The purpose of this article is to address some of... Read More
Like anything else in life, there's a method to the... Read More
Certainly we all want our children to excel. But it... Read More
Many children enjoy TV, and they can learn from it.... Read More
It was at that time when our marriage was falling... Read More
Often I have heard that leaders are born, not made.... Read More
Graphology for Child development.:- Graphology is the science of understanding... Read More
Home-schooling provides children with a superior education. Parents can quickly... Read More
In a consumer-driven society that broadcasts values you don't approve... Read More
Teri was 5. As younger siblings do, she looked up... Read More
Parenting |