There are a few points about shyness in children which will help you better understand the best approach in dealing with your child. You will need to identify the nature of your child's shyness. Children are shy in different ways for different reasons. Understanding the nature of your child's shyness will help you develop a program geared towards your child's specific needs. Here are some tips to help you get started.
1. First of all, are you sure your child really is shy? Some children like to size up a situation before they jump in. Caution should not be misunderstood as shyness.
2. You'll need to find out the type of situations that make your child shy. Some children are shy only when they are in a group. Others become shy when asked to make a presentation in front of the class at school. Try to identify the specific skills your child needs to be more at ease in social situations which make them to be shy.
3. Don't call your child "shy". Studies have shown that often a child will grow to fit a label. Parental pressure on the shy child can cause anxiety and insecurity, leading to a worse problem with shyness. Don't push your child to achieve above his or her individual level. If you have to use the word 'shy' to describe your child always pair it with something positive, e.g. "John is a little shy around people but he is a brilliant pianist!"
4. Never compare your shy child with other children in a negative way. And never allow anyone else to hurt your child in this way.
5. Take your child's ideas seriously. By lessening the importance of a child's concerns you lessen the child.
6. Help your child identify talents and hobbies that make him or her feel special.
7. Seek out activities that offer an opportunity for growth and increased interaction with other children of his or her age. Encourage your child to get involved in activities with others. Don't allow too many isolating activities, like watching TV.
8. Never push your child to do things he or she would find unbearable. Rather, make suggestions, but realize your child may not be ready. Be patient.
9. You need not handle your shy child with kid gloves, but be aware of how he feels and show that you understand.
10. Seek qualified professional help if necessary.
Being shy doesn't have to mean that something is wrong with your child. It simply means that your child is uncomfortable in social situations. You can start your search for help by reading books, talking with other parents of shy children, taking classes, searching for information on the web or by speaking with your pastor. But if your child needs immediate help it's best to consult a qualified child counsellor. You can read some more articles about parenting at: http://www.baby-shop.org.uk/guide/
Copyright ? 2005, Bridget Mwape writes for the Baby Shop UK: http://www.baby-shop.org.uk/guide/ which features baby information including articles and discounts on baby products, gifts and advice from other parents.
This article may be republished as long as all the above links are active and clickable and this author box (byline) is not edited.
top rated cleaning service Lake Forest ..For over fifty years, public-school officials and politicians have tried... Read More
This year alone, 1,600 teenagers aged 15 to 19 will... Read More
In the wonderment of childhood, it is easier for a... Read More
The word no is probably the most overused word in... Read More
What is a parenting problem?Parenting is a tough job, we... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent more than the... Read More
Are you being smart about water conservation? Do you consider... Read More
Did you know that cooking with your kids is a... Read More
Minus all meningitis thoughts. The flu symptons were strong. Headache,... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Giving with a happy heart. If you teach a child... Read More
There isn't a school day that goes by that I... Read More
We begin forming healthy habits at a young age. With... Read More
As a parent there are lots of things that you... Read More
There are so many learning labels floating around these days... Read More
What's hard for teenagersHaving people who don't understand you trying... Read More
An Awesome Dad in by no means perfect. But that... Read More
Here is a list of ways to convey the message... Read More
Most of our Founding Fathers, including Ben Franklin, Sam Adams,... Read More
The last decade has seen heightened interest in and awareness... Read More
Some years ago when touring the Scottish Highlands, a man... Read More
People always ask my wife and I: "How did you... Read More
"I WON'T DO IT!" "YOU CAN'T MAKE ME!"Whether parent or... Read More
As the flurry of Back to School activities subside, parents... Read More
Parental Alienation Syndrome was probably first identified and codified by... Read More
insured cleaning company Morton Grove ..Home-schooling provides children with a superior education. Parents can quickly... Read More
1. New Word of the DayIntroduce your preschooler to a... Read More
There are many useful jogger stroller accessories out on the... Read More
Being a parent is a role that requires a large... Read More
Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More
One of the few decisions you'll make during pregnancy that... Read More
Many families do not want to believe their child is... Read More
Are men to blame for the divorce problem in this... Read More
If your child or teen has been diagnosed with Attention... Read More
Boredom, limited space and overflowing energy are a source of... Read More
It's been said, time and again, that for a child... Read More
Managing money is one of the most critical skills we... Read More
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is the phrase that is... Read More
If you're looking for toys that are both fun to... Read More
I recently heard a story that has literally changed the... Read More
According to the American Sleep Association 70% of all babies... Read More
Not Letting Them Think.We all implicitly know that anything questioning... Read More
We begin forming healthy habits at a young age. With... Read More
I remember watching my 18-month-old son eat a big frosted... Read More
Here is a top secret to make your child genius... Read More
School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation... Read More
We are all so very happy to see that the... Read More
Everyone in a private practice setting who works with children... Read More
Winifred or Willow? Thomas or Troy? The name you choose... Read More
My wife and I have been working on a video... Read More
Parenting |