Night Visits From Your Child
In the middle of the night you hear, trip, trip, trip and your bedroom door opens. It's not hard to imagine who it is and when you feel your little one climbing into your bed, you are sure.
Rest assured, this behavior is both common and healthy. Your toddler or preschooler is searching for comfort and security and you are the one in his or her mind that provides for it. Plus, nature has a built in mechanism that, almost automatically, causes you to provide for that need.
When you and or your toddler are really losing a lot of sleep because of these night visits, it's a different story. Using one of five proven methods to encourage your toddler to stay in his bed throughout the night. Find the one that works best for you by experimentation.
However, before I explain these methods, it's important to remember this: Don't send mixed messages to your toddler. Learn from the following example about a woman who very gently and responsibly taught her child to stay in his own bed all night.
Although she wanted her little one to sleep in his own bed, she also enjoyed the closeness with her child. What happened? She couldn't sleep and in the middle of the second night she got in the little ones bed! So, back to square one. Before you decide on a plan of action, get in touch with your own feelings about the matter. If there is one thing that children are very good at picking up, it is your uncertainty.
Have you ever told your child, No when he or she wanted a cookie? If you really meant no way, chances are that your child realized that No was the end of it, but if you thought, Oh well, one cookie.., then all was lost. Your child easily picked up your emotions through your hesitation. Children are experts in picking up your emotions! Therefore it is very important not to sent mixed messages. Know what you want and stick to it. If I got a dime for every time one of my childs started to "negotiate with me" (and often won), I would now have a nice sum in the bank.
Also consider:
Lets say you and your partner agree that it's okay that baby stays in his own bed. So, how do you proceed?
These methods are by no means the Holy Grail. Try those that suit you best and you will definitely notice a huge improvement.
Always remember to be patient. In teaching little children, things often take longer than they do with adults. Whatever you do, be firm but loving. Don't leave your child out in the cold. Let your child know that his or her well-being is your main concern.
Linda is mother of two, she is an inspired author of the baby strollers guide and the baby strollers guide
licensed cleaning services Mundelein .."Now don't you go getting any ideas, Harold.""Don't you get... Read More
For over fifty years, public-school officials and politicians have tried... Read More
What exactly makes safety glasses different from regular glasses? There... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Sitterphobe "I never have a second to myself," this mother... Read More
Beyond cases reported to authorities, little knowledge exists on the... Read More
Research literature, recent books, and common sense, all point to... Read More
Mother's Day is important for children.This Mother's Day take note... Read More
I was in the life insurance sales industry for over... Read More
The Internet is one of the greatest inventions of all... Read More
Single parents are not often thought of as good parents.I... Read More
There are only two ways to get more money:1) Increase... Read More
Why do some children still do best after divorce and... Read More
In our last issue we posted some of our suggested... Read More
In theory, working at home is an ideal situation. But... Read More
"I WON'T DO IT!" "YOU CAN'T MAKE ME!"Whether parent or... Read More
Children think money grows on trees. Maybe not literally, but... Read More
Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character... Read More
Grandparents, what better way to stay close to your grown... Read More
Every children in the world whishes to have toys and... Read More
Software for parental control is a useful tool, if applied... Read More
In our last article about the neurology of ADHD we... Read More
First there were Yuppies (Young Urban Professionals). Then came the... Read More
Here we will come to know who are the most... Read More
In "The Ring Bear," a picture book by Tigard resident... Read More
licensed cleaning services Buffalo Grove ..When my daughter was born, I must admit there was... Read More
Isn't it ironic that a country whose constitution allows for... Read More
Home-schooling provides children with a superior education. Parents can quickly... Read More
Just the other day my oldest son asked:"Daddy, am I... Read More
Everyone needs friends, and, as parents, you and I both... Read More
The formula is pretty straightforward: energy in/energy out. This is... Read More
Life is comprised of pieces of time sprinkled with pivotal... Read More
Not Letting Them Think.We all implicitly know that anything questioning... Read More
Impulsivity is one of the hallmarks of people with Attention... Read More
Anyone can splurge on a formal dinner or a pricey... Read More
My kids ask me all the time to take them... Read More
"Family Matters" was the headline that caught my attention in... Read More
Compulsory attendance laws are school authorities' first assault on parental... Read More
It was blisteringly hot last Saturday. As I took that... Read More
Have you made your usual New Year resolutions? You know... Read More
I have always found the notion of toilet training a... Read More
I was in the life insurance sales industry for over... Read More
When parents help their children learn to read, they help... Read More
I know as a single parent or even with 2... Read More
Former students would probably attest to the fact that few... Read More
In stepfamilies, big holiday expectations can lead to big disappointment--and... Read More
MYTH: All teens have to rebel, and the teen years... Read More
Seven-year old Michael was on a school trip to a... Read More
Anyone can become a parent; there are no tests or... Read More
Are you a frustrated parent who sometimes finds it is... Read More
Parenting |