Why do we help others? There is a whole lot of pain and poverty, illness and despair in the world. I can't speak for you but I would like to make a difference and improve the quality of life for others. Volunteer work is a great way to begin.
No single person can change the entire world but you can have an impact on the lives of others in your own corner of the universe. That, in a small way, changes the world ever so slightly. Multiply that by a billion and it is a brave new world.
How many times have you heard people say " You can't change the world. You are just one person?" It begins with one. Forget all that nonsense the defeatists choose to fill there heads with. That's their business. The contents of your head is all that matters.
Your happiness counts. How can you share your happiness if you have none to share? You can't be happy if you put others happiness ahead of your own. You have to put yourself first in order to have the tools to affect change.
I don't know how many people I have met that speak of all the hungry people of the world living in poverty. And how they dream of helping them. These are people that are wallowing in consumer debt, the working poor, just inches away from bankruptcy. They want to help others when they cannot even dream of themselves living in prosperity. Such noble nonsense.
If you want to help your family, help your community or change the world, you have to help yourself first. You have to be selfish for pete's sake! It's not a sin or a crime to put yourself first. You have to lead by example. Nobody chooses to follow the disempowered.
Make your happiness and peace of mind your number one priority. Once you have that you have the power to really affect change. Helping others is a wonderful thing. Look at the global efforts to help the Tsunami victims and affected areas. You could rationalize it and say that helping is the right thing to do, that contributing to any good cause is the right thing to do. I agree.
But, we are not motivated by our intellect or rationalizations. It is emotion that moves us to act. Helping out makes us feel good and inversely we know that watching others suffer and not helping when we know we can will make us feel miserable. We don' t want to make ourselves unhappy.
If you can truly be honest with yourself you will see that beneath all the sentiment is a need to tend to our own happiness. I like to volunteer because it makes me feel good. That is the bottom line. The rest is just window-dressing. I have a selfish desire to feel good and so do you. There is nothing wrong with that.
Yoga, meditation and prayer make me feel good, too. Can you call those selfish pursuits? How about attending church or worshipping your higher power? Do those things make you feel good? Of course they do or you would not do them. If pursuing your own emotional well-being and feeling good is not what you would consider selfish, than I think that the term "selfish" is highly misunderstood.
Tend to your "self" first. Be selfish. Then and only then can you really make a difference.
David Parton
Helping others and myself Improve their income and boost their health and energy levels with Tahitian Noni Juice.
http://the_noni_blog.typepad.com/noni/
Alto Pass chicago limos ..Changing your mindset can have a significant impact on achieving... Read More
Our lives are overflowing with negative information from the newspapers,... Read More
It really doesn't matter what your objectives are in this... Read More
Early in my career a position became available which I... Read More
Think for a moment about all of the signals people... Read More
Normally I race around multitasking. I am always thinking about... Read More
One Friday in November, I began a journey from New... Read More
What I mean of course is, to appreciate life through... Read More
Philosophy of Forgiveness:The most powerful tool that human beings possess... Read More
Thinkers know better than to be racist. It's generally understood... Read More
A rager, or rageaholic, is a person who is addicted... Read More
Are you the kind of person who dwells on your... Read More
Are you completely happy in your life right now? Honestly?... Read More
"Someone was hurt before you; wronged before you, hungry before... Read More
Do you talk with yourself? When we hear people talking... Read More
I'm often asked how it is that I stay so... Read More
Thank you is such a beautiful phrase. When you say,... Read More
Music is very powerful. The kind of music you listen... Read More
Our thoughts really belong to the collective consciousness of the... Read More
Have you ever noticed what can happen if you just... Read More
Have you ever thought about you have a lot to... Read More
Decades ago, I saw a metaphysical movie that wonderfully illustrates... Read More
In my years as a psychologist, I have come to... Read More
IntroductionDid your boss, took you for a ride? Did your... Read More
When you change your thoughts, you change your life. The... Read More
Alto Pass cool limo ..Visualization is the art of using ones imagination to influence... Read More
You have probably noticed those people at work, school, and... Read More
Think for a moment about all of the signals people... Read More
Every emotion, wether we classify it as good or bad,... Read More
When someone thinks of a person with self-esteem most people... Read More
We have often missed the mark because we believe we... Read More
Distortions are False Beliefs Programmed every Day by Self and... Read More
The other day one of my "challenging clients" and I... Read More
Early in my career a position became available which I... Read More
A Yale University study a few years ago revealed that... Read More
Your response (reaction?) to change is conditioned by your entire... Read More
Kasia is a talented landscape designer who speaks several languages,... Read More
Life shouldn't be so complicated. Have you ever wondered why... Read More
You may be facing a type of disappointment, frustration, loss,... Read More
One day while in deep meditation and self analysis, a... Read More
Your ability to forgive those who have hurt you in... Read More
Never used 'em. Not likely to start now.OK, so I... Read More
What are you holding onto? Wanta quit?There are many things... Read More
During these times of uncertainty in the outside world, look... Read More
I was a young girl aged 12, when the one... Read More
Never Quitting Equals Success Most people who achieve fortunes in... Read More
"Adventure isn't hanging on a rope off the side... Read More
I've had several coaching clients come to me who, while... Read More
"The knowledge of actions or events before they occur; foresight."You... Read More
The way we use language can have a huge impact... Read More
Positive Attitude Tips |