I am among those who know that one never recovers from the loss of one deeply loved. We come to accept the death and adjust our lives - rather begrudingly, but we do not recover, we survive. Somewhere in the grief process, we make the decision to survive and then we are emotionally enabled to build a different kind of relationship with our deceased loved one.
Mother, I Don't Mind The Pain
When you died my dearest, blessed mother,
I had no sights or thoughts for tomorrow.
My soul experienced a wrenching eruption
Of pain and grief and excruciating sorrow.
The anguish of spirit: so unbearable;
The agony of mind: so intense,
The suffering in body: so unceasing,
Against all: I had no defense.
Nevertheless, beloved, I need you to know,
And I pray you can hear what I say.
I don't mind the pain I'm going through.
It's a small price, for our love, to pay.
We knew that one day we would have to part;
That death would come by in due time.
We knew how hard it would be for the other,
Who had to courageously linger behind.
But we knew our bond was worth the cost,
And valued each moment together we shared.
Now that I must without you go on,
The pain of my loss I will not be spared.
I wouldn't, if I could, give my pain away.
It's special and mine all alone.
It affirms all the love that I felt for you,
And in me, it can only be known.
So mother, though the pain of grief I endure
Will gradually and slowly subside.
The strength of the love that you and I share,
In the core of my heart will forever abide.
Rev. Saundra L. Washington, D.D., is an ordained clergywoman, social worker, and Founder of AMEN Ministries. http://www.clergyservices4u.org She is also the author of two coffee table books: Room Beneath the Snow: Poems that Preach and Negative Disturbances: Homilies that Teach. Her new book, Out of Deep Waters: A Grief Healing Workbook, will be available soon.
cleaning team near Winnetka ..Happy, Sad, Mad and Glad, Moved in down the streetCautious... Read More
Grandpa's House [The ole Real House]The house needed painting Sun-blistered... Read More
Supernatural PoetryHere are five poems,-what I call-death and supernatural poems.... Read More
It was not me as I am now. It was... Read More
I AM SO GRATEFUL for simpler times. Stores were closed... Read More
The Poet's Corner [Three poem/ see review of poetry under... Read More
I WANTED TO SAY IT WITH A BUNCH OF FLOWERS... Read More
Sorry would be a start.Though you cant take back your... Read More
1.Evil's CreationThou knowith evil clings To tender peace-; Nor does... Read More
Frog SummerSummer grows hot, for the New-blooded frogs; The bugs... Read More
English VersionA bunch of us guys in the hutIn ?Nam... Read More
Thank youDedicated to soldiers and their loved onesFor those who... Read More
You've been writing poetry since that first assignment in your... Read More
I never met a man, who could shake my hand,... Read More
Ah! Leave the gold, wealth and landSays the Inca King?;... Read More
What's a prisoner to do when justice fails and... Read More
Four Poems: Katrina's PathwayHarvest of Apoplectic Horses ((Dedicated to: Katrina))... Read More
English Version12) Black Poncho(of Saint Cosme Hill, by Lima, Peru)Lost... Read More
English VersionThe Merchant of Copan [480 AD]Advance: The ballgame at... Read More
In early fall, in Minnesota, the rain falls, falls, In... Read More
Iquitos & the Amazon Part OneIt was December 2, l959,... Read More
#25The King and Delka [Split Mawkishness-on Moiromma /Part V]Sickly SentimentalityI... Read More
I cannot bear to think of when you will be... Read More
FIND the MAGICFind the Magic As you release old bondage... Read More
In this modern age of technology, busy lifestyles, and obsession... Read More
family-safe home cleaners Northbrook ..House of the Goblin [Part Two of Three]Here is where,... Read More
Out of the eight poems provided here [all previously unpublished],... Read More
So many looked to you for inspiration,Unlikely hero for the... Read More
English Version12) Black Poncho(of Saint Cosme Hill, by Lima, Peru)Lost... Read More
Like a cat I slumber, blissfully unencumbered, Through eighty per... Read More
When your life becomes unbearable And the light of... Read More
I AM SO GRATEFUL for simpler times. Stores were closed... Read More
Note: written 4-15-05, while driving through the Andes of Peru,... Read More
Writing Poetry for TomorrowWhat does a man need to be... Read More
The Torrents of HellHell's furnace- Likened to a chimney Vomits... Read More
I WANTED TO SAY IT WITH A BUNCH OF FLOWERS... Read More
Old skin, once held tight Against her skeleton- Rose no... Read More
Daybreak at Pikes Creek [Summer of 2005]Daybreak by Lake Superior... Read More
the disease of extremism is infectious-; whoever cannot think of... Read More
Hammers. Timbers. Iron. Steel.They're laying down a mighty keel.As ant-like... Read More
Ole Bulky JeepsThrough late summer's heat These bulky shaped jeeps... Read More
What can I do to keep this world in its... Read More
No one should have to beg or crawl before humanity.... Read More
So Many Einstein'sThe morning mist, insists there is a God.... Read More
Way of Life: Rhymes of the IncaPizarro (Spanish conquistador ((1525))The... Read More
I am not the one I was before yesterday.I cannot... Read More
I cannot bear to think of when you will be... Read More
English VersionThe Merchant of Copan [480 AD]Advance: The ballgame at... Read More
"Song of the Great Zimbabwe"Across the African, winter's skyIn the... Read More
Poems have different cores, or so I believe, and can... Read More
Poetry |