I am among those who know that one never recovers from the loss of one deeply loved. We come to accept the death and adjust our lives - rather begrudingly, but we do not recover, we survive. Somewhere in the grief process, we make the decision to survive and then we are emotionally enabled to build a different kind of relationship with our deceased loved one.
Mother, I Don't Mind The Pain
When you died my dearest, blessed mother,
I had no sights or thoughts for tomorrow.
My soul experienced a wrenching eruption
Of pain and grief and excruciating sorrow.
The anguish of spirit: so unbearable;
The agony of mind: so intense,
The suffering in body: so unceasing,
Against all: I had no defense.
Nevertheless, beloved, I need you to know,
And I pray you can hear what I say.
I don't mind the pain I'm going through.
It's a small price, for our love, to pay.
We knew that one day we would have to part;
That death would come by in due time.
We knew how hard it would be for the other,
Who had to courageously linger behind.
But we knew our bond was worth the cost,
And valued each moment together we shared.
Now that I must without you go on,
The pain of my loss I will not be spared.
I wouldn't, if I could, give my pain away.
It's special and mine all alone.
It affirms all the love that I felt for you,
And in me, it can only be known.
So mother, though the pain of grief I endure
Will gradually and slowly subside.
The strength of the love that you and I share,
In the core of my heart will forever abide.
Rev. Saundra L. Washington, D.D., is an ordained clergywoman, social worker, and Founder of AMEN Ministries. http://www.clergyservices4u.org She is also the author of two coffee table books: Room Beneath the Snow: Poems that Preach and Negative Disturbances: Homilies that Teach. Her new book, Out of Deep Waters: A Grief Healing Workbook, will be available soon.
recurring cleaning service Wilmette ..What can I do to keep this world in its... Read More
I am not the one I was before yesterday.I cannot... Read More
Footprints to Mantaro Valley (Peru; in English and Spanish)In what... Read More
Thank youDedicated to soldiers and their loved onesFor those who... Read More
Note: written after seeing the little adobe 16th century church... Read More
Amy King Antidotes for an Alibi BlazeVox Books ISBN 0-9759227-5-0... Read More
Take some time to stop and look at nature. Pick... Read More
Twilight, was now beginning. As forthe sun, it was down-down... Read More
The Poet's Corner [Three poem/ see review of poetry under... Read More
1) Shadows of the Andes [or: Song to the Andes]I... Read More
The Torrents of HellHell's furnace- Likened to a chimney Vomits... Read More
the disease of extremism is infectious-; whoever cannot think of... Read More
As I picked up some of the polished gemstones in... Read More
Two Poems and an Analysis ['Witness,' & 'An Old Love']WitnessMy... Read More
Old skin, once held tight Against her skeleton- Rose no... Read More
To many non-specialists of literature, poetry is deeply unsatisfying. There... Read More
Poems have different cores, or so I believe, and can... Read More
How I wonder what he's doing as I sit alone... Read More
The Incubus' Flash-lightHe looked inside my head And found a... Read More
One of the most important poets of the post-war period,... Read More
"Song of the Great Zimbabwe"Across the African, winter's skyIn the... Read More
In the Mountains of Haiti(In the City)-July is a hot... Read More
Have you ever thought about how nice it would be... Read More
There once lived an old man and his goodwife On... Read More
In Poetry: Meaning of WordsWhen I write poetry, I check... Read More
reliable maid service Morton Grove ..Poet Stephen B. Wiley's first book of poetry, Hero Island,... Read More
Memoirs of a Wasteland's RimIt still was light when she... Read More
1.Evil's CreationThou knowith evil clings To tender peace-; Nor does... Read More
I am among those who know that one never recovers... Read More
Sorry would be a start.Though you cant take back your... Read More
One of the most important poets of the post-war period,... Read More
"I heard what you said, Red. Yet, I have to... Read More
Ode to Quetzalc?atlQuetzalc?atl the GreatNo one knew his true name,... Read More
Kafka lands resurrected in Crewe deposited by a silvery alien... Read More
No one should have to beg or crawl before humanity.... Read More
On through the darkness she searches the bones Seeking the... Read More
In this modern age of technology, busy lifestyles, and obsession... Read More
Ole Bulky JeepsThrough late summer's heat These bulky shaped jeeps... Read More
(The city by the bay of Northern California, near which... Read More
"All bad poetry springs from genuine feeling."--Oscar WildePeople write poetry... Read More
You can do and you can be whatever you want.... Read More
1.Night in Jamaica [Peruvianism: 1810]It was a rainy night... Read More
Contract of DeathI heard today, the preacher say: "Daniel has... Read More
There are many times I set up barriers and walls,... Read More
Advance: in Mr. Siluk's poetry one finds symbolist values, sensuous... Read More
So Many Einstein'sThe morning mist, insists there is a God.... Read More
Ah! Leave the gold, wealth and landSays the Inca King?;... Read More
LIFE IS A FANTASY!A pink-eyed rabbit, fuzzy whiteHops in bedrooms... Read More
Like a cat I slumber, blissfully unencumbered, Through eighty per... Read More
[Episode Five]Arizona Blue-GunfighterThe Wolves Nest-in the North[Episode Five]Northern Minnesota Area?Winter... Read More
Poetry |