I am among those who know that one never recovers from the loss of one deeply loved. We come to accept the death and adjust our lives - rather begrudingly, but we do not recover, we survive. Somewhere in the grief process, we make the decision to survive and then we are emotionally enabled to build a different kind of relationship with our deceased loved one.
Mother, I Don't Mind The Pain
When you died my dearest, blessed mother,
I had no sights or thoughts for tomorrow.
My soul experienced a wrenching eruption
Of pain and grief and excruciating sorrow.
The anguish of spirit: so unbearable;
The agony of mind: so intense,
The suffering in body: so unceasing,
Against all: I had no defense.
Nevertheless, beloved, I need you to know,
And I pray you can hear what I say.
I don't mind the pain I'm going through.
It's a small price, for our love, to pay.
We knew that one day we would have to part;
That death would come by in due time.
We knew how hard it would be for the other,
Who had to courageously linger behind.
But we knew our bond was worth the cost,
And valued each moment together we shared.
Now that I must without you go on,
The pain of my loss I will not be spared.
I wouldn't, if I could, give my pain away.
It's special and mine all alone.
It affirms all the love that I felt for you,
And in me, it can only be known.
So mother, though the pain of grief I endure
Will gradually and slowly subside.
The strength of the love that you and I share,
In the core of my heart will forever abide.
Rev. Saundra L. Washington, D.D., is an ordained clergywoman, social worker, and Founder of AMEN Ministries. http://www.clergyservices4u.org She is also the author of two coffee table books: Room Beneath the Snow: Poems that Preach and Negative Disturbances: Homilies that Teach. Her new book, Out of Deep Waters: A Grief Healing Workbook, will be available soon.
disinfecting cleaning services Winnetka ..LIFE IS A FANTASY!A pink-eyed rabbit, fuzzy whiteHops in bedrooms... Read More
Asha of DarfurCry, cry-oh little Darfur woman For your sister... Read More
The following two poems, one in English, the other in... Read More
Shakespeare's sonnets require time and effort to appreciate. Understanding the... Read More
As I picked up some of the polished gemstones in... Read More
She probably can't remember and I know I can never... Read More
Grandpa's House [The ole Real House]The house needed painting Sun-blistered... Read More
"All bad poetry springs from genuine feeling."--Oscar WildePeople write poetry... Read More
The Torrents of HellHell's furnace- Likened to a chimney Vomits... Read More
Amy King Antidotes for an Alibi BlazeVox Books ISBN 0-9759227-5-0... Read More
"I heard what you said, Red. Yet, I have to... Read More
Ed Gallagher Dec. 11, 1907 - Sept. 5, 2004This poem... Read More
Writing Poetry for TomorrowWhat does a man need to be... Read More
Footprints to Mantaro Valley (English version)In what retreat art hid?-Where... Read More
When I am climbing up, you are stepping down. When... Read More
English VersionA bunch of us guys in the hutIn ?Nam... Read More
Contract of DeathI heard today, the preacher say: "Daniel has... Read More
In Poetry: Meaning of WordsWhen I write poetry, I check... Read More
Robert Burns, a poor man, an educated man, and a... Read More
Old skin, once held tight Against her skeleton- Rose no... Read More
Do not be afraid to shine. This world needs what... Read More
"Song of the Great Zimbabwe"Across the African, winter's skyIn the... Read More
Explore the meaning of poetry and the motivation of poets... Read More
Do you ever stare at the paper, waiting for poetic... Read More
Our home was warm in the shade of the trees... Read More
last minute cleaning help Highland Park ..1)dying in the bar [sluggishly]yet, I would crawl too upto... Read More
[As Told by the Last] King: it was in the... Read More
the disease of extremism is infectious-; whoever cannot think of... Read More
Poet Stephen B. Wiley's first book of poetry, Hero Island,... Read More
English Version12) Black Poncho(of Saint Cosme Hill, by Lima, Peru)Lost... Read More
Emlyn Williams Theatre, Mold, North Wales: 20th February 2003Clwyd Theatr... Read More
Note: written after seeing the little adobe 16th century church... Read More
What Hides behind the Minute?What hides behind the minute? It... Read More
"I heard what you said, Red. Yet, I have to... Read More
Have you ever thought about how nice it would be... Read More
1.Night in Jamaica [Peruvianism: 1810]It was a rainy night... Read More
Wars, air of AmbiguityDedicated to 1st. Lt. Laura Walker (From... Read More
All is still; all quiet; The world seems to... Read More
Grandpa's House [The ole Real House]The house needed painting Sun-blistered... Read More
Advance: in Mr. Siluk's poetry one finds symbolist values, sensuous... Read More
The Epic Poem:A Death in Cajamarca, Peru [Atahualpa, in Cajamarca]Advance:... Read More
How wonderfully sweet to be a dweller dwelling... Read More
Writing poetry is an art, a way of expression, finding... Read More
LIFE IS A FANTASY!A pink-eyed rabbit, fuzzy whiteHops in bedrooms... Read More
There once lived an old man and his goodwife On... Read More
Real Power.One Tsunami, and all our armies, Seem belittled by... Read More
In the midst of darkness, there is light. In... Read More
You make me smile like I've seldom done before You... Read More
Azra, Azra, Wake up Azra. Wake up Azra, It is... Read More
now is not the time to open open that great... Read More
Poetry |