Being a single mother is no easy task. I know. I was a single mother of two children less than six months ago, so I can say with some authority that being a single mother is a beast. It can drive you crazy if you let it. The insanity is not just that you have to raise children alone and be mother and father. The craziness gets worse when you add a full-time job, not enough money, societal pressure, not to mention being blamed for all of society's ill. How does a single mother remain graceful under pressure? How does she keep from wielding a knife at the next person that tell her "it's not that bad"? What keeps her from pulling her hair out at a minimum, and at a maximum keep from killing herself, her children, or just her spirit? The following five Sanity Savers offers some solutions that I find help get me through some really rough times. They may be a temporary, just for the moment fix, but then again sometime that's all a haggard single mother needs.
1. Music lifts the soul.
Listen to uplifting music that inspires, energizes, and praises God. When I am in a particularly deep depression I put on a upbeat gospel or jazz CD and dance like nobody's watching (nobody is). After a few moments of that I am feeling 80% better. I feel more energetic and positive and the problems seem small.
2. Journaling to get the cobwebs out.
Writing out my thoughts and prayers clears my mind and connects me to God (or whomever you believe in). It draws me closer to him. I feel a deeper connection to him because I am sharing all of my thoughts and feelings with Him. I find that the best time for me to write is in the early morning hours. My thoughts are fresh and I can concentrate better. I put the pen to paper and just write what comes to mind or I follow a specific order of giving thanks, confession and repentance, intercession for others, and petition. Which ever way I choose is fine as long as I am communicating with God.
3. Meditating
It calms my mind. I do it in complete silence or with soft music playing in the background. Meditating puts me in His sphere. I think about His goodness and mercy towards me and His love for me.
4. Talking.
Talking to others or to God through prayer is another way to maintain sanity. Speak to someone gets all the stuff that's bottled up out and clears your mind and body. Discussing problems and concerns can be done by phone or in person while driving along, standing at the kitchen sink doing dishes, or while cooking or cleaning. Talking to God can happen any time; particularly for me doing it in the shower seems to be the best time.
5. Reading.
Reading the bible or book of affirmations. Some of my favorite passages are in Psalms and in the New Testament. The words are my words, especially in the Psalms. I get hope when I read the scripture. When I am having a particularly hard time and I can't bring myself to read whole passages of scripture I just read one verse and meditate on it. It gives me what I need at the time and keeps me connected to God. A book of affirmations helps keep me positive about life when my outlook is negative. The power of positive thinking is priceless.
Hopefully you are a much saner single mother now. The tips outlined above are not hard to practice. It takes a few minutes to pop in a CD or jot down a few thoughts in a journal to decompress. Meditating for 15 to 30 minutes or just taking a five minute breather is simple. Phoning a friend or whispering a prayer does wonders to your stress level and finally reading a verse of scripture or one affirmation can bring calm to your sinking spirit. Please take the time to follow these tips. It could mean the difference between a padded room or a comfy chair. You owe it to yourself and your kids.
You are free to copy this article in it's entirety when you include the author's bio. Please send and e-mail if you choose to use it and receive a reciprocal link.
Samantha Gregory-Applewhite is a technical writer by day and a freelance article and busines writer/speaker/personal coach by night. Her business is Applewhite Communications http://www.applewhitecommunications.com and her writing website is Applewhite Spaces http://www.applewhitecommunications.com She lives and plays in Huntsville, Alabama with her Trinidadian husband Odel and her two children Lexi and AJ. Reading, traveling, internet surfing, and spending time with family friends is her passion.
family-safe home cleaners Northbrook ..My husband and I have a 12-year-old daughter who wanted... Read More
Many children enjoy TV, and they can learn from it.... Read More
The Internet, is magnificent in its resources for families. Educational... Read More
We begin forming healthy habits at a young age. With... Read More
School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation... Read More
You're trying to catch up on some sleep on a... Read More
Public education in the United States has never been equal... Read More
Valentine day has always been a special day in my... Read More
When was the last time you and your kids rolled... Read More
School authorities often complain that classes are too large. They... Read More
Late vs. Too LateEvery now and then, I'll hear a... Read More
In today's fast-paced society, many families depend on some form... Read More
Gift shops are a kid magnet and often a trip... Read More
When your child shows signs of potty training readiness, it's... Read More
Past experience with federal education programs predicts that the No... Read More
Here's the scene of communication with your child: your three-year-old... Read More
Have you heard the song; "I Hope You Dance"? It... Read More
Teaching kids to deal with conflict effectively and peacefully is... Read More
We all wish that our children should not smoke or... Read More
It is so important to create an environment that promotes... Read More
If you are like most people today, you do not... Read More
I know as a single parent or even with 2... Read More
Often, the struggle at dinnertime with your picky eater is... Read More
Non-compliance is the family therapist's big word for your child... Read More
The snow was getting heavier with each lift of the... Read More
residential cleaning services Deerfield ..Back in college, I wrote for a five-day-a-week, award-winning campus... Read More
Imagine yourself lying flat on your back, totally strapped down... Read More
We all know that using cloth nappies is best for... Read More
Although, not a well publicized statistic, childhood obesity has more... Read More
Did you know that the school system is only able... Read More
Being a parent is a role that requires a large... Read More
Former students would probably attest to the fact that few... Read More
In a single dose of children's television, I was bombarded... Read More
Having been a parent educator and a PBS consultant for... Read More
People always ask my wife and I: "How did you... Read More
The main thing we noticed since having a baby is... Read More
In the wonderment of childhood, it is easier for a... Read More
I WAS AMAZEDI could hardly believe what I was hearing.... Read More
There may really be a real monster under your kid???s... Read More
Sometime the most effective training tool in rapidly accelerating the... Read More
In today's busy world, many parents have lost the art... Read More
Here are some tips that I have picked up from... Read More
Life is funny.My twenty-year-old daughter, Melanie, has a her new... Read More
Once upon a time there was a beautiful bird whose... Read More
The biggest trick some child predators' are using these days... Read More
"Before every action, ask yourself: Will this bring more monkeys... Read More
Have you made your usual New Year resolutions? You know... Read More
It was at that time when our marriage was falling... Read More
Homework. It doesn't have to be a daily battle of... Read More
The word no is probably the most overused word in... Read More
Parenting |